Forum:A Reply to Critics of Unhooked

A Reply to Critics of Unhooked=

A response to: [|Unhooked Critics' page].

This is a reply to the stupidity of some of the comments by posters with their comments on the Laura Session Stepp book //Unhooked//. Think of it as my "8 Theses." I could go on and on; but nobody would read an endless list. So here's the short take:

Issue #1

 * Sir Tone claims that you cannot refer to a "sexually active female" as a "slut."**

Well, they're one and the same!


 * "Sexually active" has been a cover-up term for "promiscuous" for a long time by those who are guilt-stricken over their actions and yet, are too boastful or stubborn to admit that they are.
 * Ronald Regan himself addressed this in a speech in the 80's.
 * Moreover, Sir Tone, you accomplish nothing by telling someone who is correctly using the dictionary that they are a "mean-spirit."
 * Also, you are a hypocrite for telling the world not to "misuse" terms when you clearly misuse the term "asshole" in reference to your distaste for someone whom you falsely claim to have used a wrong term.
 * "Slut" and "Sexually Active Female" are interchangeable; denotatively. Mean-Spirit and "Asshole" are only interchangeable to those who insist on letting their speech be corrupted by street scum terminology.

Issue #2

 * NoMrBrodyIWantYouToDie claims that most guys only think about sex when having sex or thinking about considering it.**


 * Sir, you insult every truly creative writer in the world.

Issue #3

 * Bleh writes that it would "suck" to only be with one, because one would "never know what's out there."**


 * Last I checked one vagina is more or less the same as the last.
 * It's not the sex, but the personality compatilbility between you and the other that matters; as well as how competent you are at communicating with them; and they with you. It's communication, not the vagina, that makes the difference.
 * And this is what you should test drive: communication competence. I don't go around carrying multiple driver's licenses just because I "want to know what's out there."  Instead, I make sure that the one and only driver's license I do have is legal for me given the state I live in.

Issue #4
Megan comments:

"'Men are not monogomous creatures. It is not in the male mammal's nature to commit to one mate for life, so it makes no logical sense to expect a modern man to do so. It also makes no sense for a woman to feel she has to be 'attached' (as in, married or otherwise committed to her sexual partner), and I'm incensed by people who claim that the fabric of society is falling apart because the institution of marriage is in jeopardy.'"


 * You don't know me, Megan. This is all Kinseyan nonsense.
 * I'd give anything for a commitment with a woman I could trust.
 * Also, are you blind to the rise in broken families; the decline in healthy childbirth, the threats of terrorism (where others believe because of a faith their leader fabricated after hijacking ideas from Essenes and Gnostics that "God" is instructing them to kill us for our IMMORALITY), and the inevitable rise in GANG ACTIVITY?
 * This //is// the disintegration of society! It's not "falling apart"; it ALREADY HAS!  That's why we don't notice it!
 * It's only because other countries are so much more evil that we haven't yet been diced up by the blender blades of justice like we deserve.
 * The answer lies NOT in "letting yourself be wild" ever! The answer lies in keeping your standards high; knowing your true friends from users and foes, and improving your thoughts and thought standards so you can also improve your communication skills.
 * By the way, am I too harsh in saying this? Please give an educated answer, if any.  I have precious little time to meddle with morons who simply dismiss me as "that d*****."

Issue #5

 * Simply Katie states that you don't "have to be married" to be "socially adequate."**


 * Katie, there is FAR more to adequacy than money.
 * Besides, if you have any idea what life is like outside of California, you'd realize that in some cases, if you can't afford to marry, then you can't afford sex or kids or anything of the sort either.
 * I've lost friends because they gambled with your theory and became too overwhelmed making end's meet to have time for me.
 * I suppose if you're a millionaire, you can handle the money problems. But immorality is directly linked to an increase in poverty; and in places like Big Rapids where there is no Hollywood machine to compensate, this way of life you propose is suicide.
 * Just ask a few hairstylists there.
 * As for the other aspects of "socially adequate;" when giving up on yourself and selling yourself for three minutes of something becomes "adequate" socially, then it's because social structure is had a total system meltdown; not because you're suddenly "okay."

Issue #6

 * Megan(KitKat4Ever) again:**


 * The WHOLE PROBLEM is that we ARE used to it-but with NO CONTEXT!
 * We need instead to BALANCE (isn't that what Buddhism, as you claim in your profile to be, about?) our "being used to" it with our understanding of how and why misuse OUGHT TO BE EMBARASSING.
 * Our problem is NOT that we "aren't used to it." Our problem is that we've "forgotten how to blush." (Jeremiah 6:15).

Issue #7

 * Jaime of Canada states:**

"'Sex shouldn't wait till marriage; because all that does is make you more susceptible to be taken advantage of...'"


 * WRONG! It's //demanding that it be preserved// that protects you!
 * Relationships should revolve around the dynamic of the personalities and communication; and the commitment to helping the other achieve their life goals.
 * The way to immunize yourself from being taken advantage of is to be vigilant as to any and all details that someone is scamming you; and to not give in if you suspect you are being scammed.
 * Instead of making you more susceptible when someone says "I love you," DEMANDING PRESERVATION says "Oh yeah? PROVE IT by following the rules--THEN, MAYBE, I'll believe you!"
 * If you suspect they're using you for something not related to sex; how do you handle that? By letting them have what they want?  Nonsense!
 * If they want to connive away your watch, do you just give it to them without the promise of demanding it back; or do you make sure in advance you can trust them to return it? And how do you make sure?
 * Test with something lesser; ask questions; and MAKE SURE THEIR STORIES NEVER CONTRADICT!
 * I can't tell you how many women I've exposed as scam artists with this approach; and saved myself a world of hurt. (Though there was some short-run hurt in the form of wounded pride; that these girls would even think they could get away with scamming me.)
 * If they can't follow through, then they're likely scamming you. Don't fall for it.  Just as it is with precious family heirloom watches, so it is with sex.
 * "Four bare legs in a bed," as CS Lewis states in //God in the Dock//, DOES NOT change the rules of the game!
 * I thought Canada was supposed to be full of intellectuals. A shame they didn't think this plain-logic insight was important enough to share with you.  But it's better you hear it from a crude nobody like me than from nobody ever.

Issue #8

 * Sir Tone says "always a girfriend; never a wife; marriage is just a contract."**


 * Sir Sir Tone; do you even know why English Common Law was established?
 * Why is it that this "sweet harmony" that is supposed to be a "SPIRITUAL," as well as a sexual, bond with a man and his wife PLUS GOD, is attached to a frail and fragile document written on paper? Obviously not.
 * But one has to be willfully ignorant, or else misinformed about the Kantian concept of "categorical imperative," to not see it.


 * Why do corporations have legally-binding contracts? So that if someone violates it; and ruins things for the other in a way that can have expensive consequences, there will be proper way to punish the offender!
 * Like a business, so is the process of merging two lives into one functioning essence; a concept that secularism has robbed the human psyche of today's society of.
 * It used to mean something when that contract was violated. Now, it's almost as simple as signing a few papers and ripping up the contract.
 * This means, that if we make marriage cheap, then we have not truly been practicing it in the first place; and shame on us for deceiving ourselves to the contrary ever.
 * As for your repugnant comment about boredom; I would imagine that the act of sex would get boring after a while no matter how many partners you have, if your only goal behind it was to stick slot A in pocket B (or C or D, or even E as in ear, for that matter!)
 * It's meant to be a mostly rare event between two that are only each other and of the opposite sex FOR THE VERY REASON that if you do it TOO OFTEN; then it WILL GET BORING, just as much as playing the same song will. But more partners is not the answer!
 * That's like saying playing iTunes non-stop all day every day is a perfectly healthy thing for your body and mind; and the only answer to boredom is to simply add more stolen music to the list of songs you play and play them ad-nauseum. This is stupid thinking!
 * Without moments of silence; I can tire of my library no matter how many songs I have, no matter how I acquire them. Don't let the advocates of the "multiplicity fights boredom" theory about sex fool you.
 * Let's take this back to Kindergarten. Jigsaw puzzles could be fun; but only if you agreed to put the pieces in the right place as much as possible, and not try to force pieces at the expense of breaking them.
 * What would I do if I finally got bored one day with a wife? I'd simply ask her what she wants to do with her life; (be that climbing the Eiffel Tower; feeding the hungry, etc), and I'd make sure I helped her accomplish it.
 * If I don't need sex but just courage; then I make myself useful and win back courage. I let sex according to God's plan take care of itself from there.
 * But if your problem is "boredom," it's because you've had too much!
 * Would you eat pancakes overdrenched in corn syrup every single day for breakfast, lunch, and dinner just because you like the recipe? Nonsense!  Same with sex.
 * Adding more cooks or trespassing on more kitchens does not solve the problem. Neither does sneaking under other fences.  If thrills are what you seek; try evangelizing in Iran and not dying for a thrill.  But don't give me this nonsense that an extra claimed vagina is the answer to your problem.